Family and Identity

Family and Identity
Many people view marriage as a logical and a beneficial lifestyle. In religion, especially Christianity, marriage is often held in a high regard. Christians feel that the most beautiful thing for a godly man is to have a lifelong commitment to a godly woman through self-sacrificing love. However, there are many other people who seem to oppose the institution of marriage. In fact, they seem to support the idea of eliminating the marriage institution because it has a few benefits. Rather, they support the idea that alternative lifestyles, as well as relationships, have to be treated with an equal status as marriage. An example of such a relationship is homosexuality, whose debate of legalization has recently been intense. Consequently, there is need to address the issues relating to marriage in order to guide the people on whether to marry or not. For this reason, I am going to use this paper to address the idea of the need for marriage from a positive perspective. I support the idea that marriage is important to the society and should be encouraged.
The world seems to be moving further away from the moral purity towards doing what appears to be right before many people. This can be termed as moral decay. For instance, cases of the number of children that are born out of marriage have been increasing. Initially, children were born inside marriage. Consequently, people married so that they could have children. On the contrary, people do not need to get married because they can still have children without getting married. The number of cases where people form intimate relationships in which they cohabit without getting married, but can get children has been rising. However, this is against the norms of the society. People should marry in order to observe the culture. For instance, Gregory Corso believes that he should get married because in case he reaches 60 years old without getting married, he would be the odd one out in his society (Corso 6).
According to Gregory Corso, marriage is encouraged since it promotes family relations and family tie. For example, when a man marries a woman from a given family, the two families become friends and forms one family. The family from which the lady come does not just lose a daughter, but it gains a son. The same thing happens to the family of the boy, which gains a daughter. When this happens, a wedding is organized. The wedding brings together both families, and this encourages unity within the society.
People should get married because marriage is the source of happiness when people share their responsibilities. A man feels happy when he comes home and finds the wife at home. Of course, the man will be working to bring the food home. It is happy as the woman prepares the food for the two to eat together while sharing their love and happiness. For instance, Gregory write; ‘… and so happy about me she burns the roast beef and comes crying to me, and I get up from my big papa chair saying Christmas teeth! Radiant brains! Apple deaf! God what a husband I’d make! Yes, I should get married’! Therefore, people get married to share responsibilities. Such a marriage is full of happiness, not only to the couple, but also to the society. Therefore, people should marry to get happiness since people feel happy in marriage. ‘And you think then we’ll be all right and be happy.’ ‘I know we will. You don’t have to be afraid. I’ve known lots of people that have done it’ (Hemingway 36).
Despite the needs of the society, the decision of getting married depends on the individual. Therefore, ‘if you don’t want to you don’t have o’ (Hemingway, 36). This implies that people should only get into marriage in case they want. One should not get into marriage in case there are any fears. For this reason, there is a need of understanding your partner well before getting marriage. This will help to eliminate cases of divorce in the society. A good marriage is the one that is directed by love. Most people get married to the partners they fall in love with. However, many people who are not married seem not to believe in love. For instance, Gregory Corso says, “I see love as odd as wearing shoes” (Corso 6). This means that people no longer believe in the love that used to bind the marriage.
People who do not get married are trying to run away from their parental responsibilities such as paying rent and taking care of their children among, other responsibilities. If one marries, it reaches a time when the woman ‘gives birth to a child’ and the husband will be ‘sleepless, worn, up for nights, head bowed against a quiet window’ (Corso 6). Gregory Corso goes ahead to say, “finding myself in the most common of situations a trembling man knowledged with responsibility not twig-smear not Roman coin soup– O what would that be like” (Corso 6)! This implies that some people shy away from the responsibilities of marriage. Therefore, they tend to avoid marriage. I addition, some people will shy away from marriage due the experience they might have from the people who are married. For instance, Corso says that he would not love to marry a woman like his mother. Possibly, his mind has seen his mother fail in her marriage.
Works Cited
Corso, Gregory. The Happy Birthday of Death. 8. Print. ed. New York: New Directions, 2012. Print.
Hemingway, Ernest. Hills like White Elephants Short Story. S.l.: HarperCollins Canada, 2014. Print.